All comments made pertaining to the movie are derived from on discussions with people confessedly boycotting it - people who have not watched the film but feel strongly they should explain the movie and tell us what it represents.
Shades of grey is wish fulfillment film, where gratifying strange and conflicted desires brings the characters to fulfillment. No part where the lover's callously discarded for the next plaything. Perhaps there is no such scene in the film, but Don Juan must go on.
The predatatory lusts of powerful men find no lack of willing objects. That there are predatory components to sexuality is really nothing new. Sex is about the participants, they proclaimed, full stop.
The recent sexual revolution has successfully convinced many people to identify sexual gratification with sexual fulfillment - mutuality being the proviso, by custom and consensus. That proviso stands guard over fulfillment - the fuller realization of our merits and capacities as human beings. Gratification pertains to the realization of the excellence of experience attainable.
Fulfillment ~= Spiritual progress, to use six words.
In contemporary philosophy, sex drives evolved as a mechanism to ensure that humans reproduce. But a far as human individuals are concerned, sexuality amounts to peculiarities of psychology, and to some psychiatrists extend the conepts to physiology.
When I say philosophy, I imply that the relationship of the individual to the larger number, to the past and future, is a wide range of tendency that agree. Psyche tells how to find what's gratifying and move on it, your will unonscious, you think upon this and act accordingly. But who speaks for the dead? Who speaks for the unborn? The diversion of star-crossed lovers from what need have been a single meeting?
To this way of thinking, a highway may have been built to expedite the movement of cars, but thanks to the progress of the human mind, we now realize it's just as well disregard the highway when we drive.
The reality is that a persons's sexual drives have evolved to organize and direct behavior to purposes beyond their own. Personal survival is not arbitrarily related to biological propagation any more than is self-sacrifice.
There are obvious correlations between morality and gratification. I suspect this relationship is extremely contingent. In fact some benefits require harm, whether as a function of utilitarian necessity (robbery, defamation) or sadism. Pursuing someone with whom to share love reflects the universal human condition, and the association with morality is quite compelling. By comparison, does contriving to use someone for pleasure imply commensurate dignity?
There was no time where only villains mistreated women. Surely times have changed: The film is driven by the romance of "predatory" sexuality, and promoted as a gentle way to introduce your date to the joys of sadomasochism.
For future reference: The study of demographic manipulation,s elective change, mechanisms and knowledge study and outstanding questions, state of the sundry arts, primordial though they may be.